My relationship with my mother and father completely flipped sometime in my 20’s. As a kid, my mother was who I loved the most and my father was to be feared.
He ended up mellowing out over the years and becoming one of my best friends. A supporter of anything I put my mind to.
My mother, by contrast grew more controlling and difficult. It’s a real struggle to be around her.
Cherish your parents as real people who can change, who have faults, who have their own inner lives. It will be too much to bear when they change if you’re not open to it.TK